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Just moved and feeling lonely? Here’s what NOT to do.
I become extremely frustrated when I read posts in mastermind groups, “I feel so lonely.”
Or, “I’ve just moved and I have trouble making friends.”
Or, “My grown children never call me. I’m thinking of moving to be closer to them.”
Bad Advice For People Feeling Lonely
I used to move around a lot, both for jobs and for curiosity. I didn’t move with a family. So I learned a lot about being alone and making friends in a new community.
My problem isn’t with the people who write those posts. It’s with the advice they usually get. It’s the assumptions people make. They’re sending these lonely people off in the wrong direction.
Well-meaning readers send advice tips like:
“Look for other people like yourself.”
“Join a group where you’ll be likely to make friends.”
“Get involved in a church or a volunteer work opportunity.”
They’re missing the point.
